I'm a very different person now that I'm post-op. Not a better person (I hate post-op elitism) but I am a different person. One way I'm different is I just don't have the energy I used to have to put into trans stuff. I think that's probably because a lot of the energy I had was a direct result from my own discomfort with my body.
I've had my labiaplasty. It was difficult to get done because, after a year being post-op, it was hard to believe my body actually needed surgery. Really, it didn't, I was pretty comfortable with my body as it was, and I was comfortable with my vagina. I decided to have labiaplasty anyway because I saw it as part of the SRS, and I felt I wanted to complete things. I'm very happy with the cosmetic results of labiaplasty. Really, things like appearance aren't that big an issue though. I was very concerned that my vagina "look real" when I was pre-op, but being post-op that concern seems a little silly. I'm glad I did it though.
Masturbating after labiaplasty took a bit of getting used to. It was easier to masturbate before labiaplasty...everything was very accessible. By drawing the labia together at the top, additional skin now shields the area above my clitoris that I found very sensitive and was prone to rubbing while masturbating. I still rub on that area, but it's not as sensitive. I do more direct play with the clitoris these days. I'll admit I'm a bit lazy, while I find other kinds of vaginal stimulation pleasurable I usually go straight for the clit in masturbating because it's an easy consistent way to get myself off.
I can't think of much else to say about SRS physically. Mentally, I think is an entirely different area, but it's one that's really too complex to get into. Everyone seems to react to SRS differently mentally speaking. I really can't do the subject justice here. In fact, I don't even think it's fair to me to speak to this subject here, because in a way on this web page I'm representing post-ops, and my opinions on the subject are not representative of post-ops in general.
What I can say is...try and keep an open mind. Love yourself. Find other things in your life besides SRS to keep you going. Realize that SRS is not going to change the way most people see you. SRS is not the end of your journey, nor is it the beginning, it's just a road stop. Try and enjoy the ride.